If you’re very rarely or never told “No” or don’t have to wait or work for anything, will it be a harder struggle to get on in the World? (This is based on most normal and reasonable of situations – single or separate parenting included and of course, on a continuum).
In the “Real World” no one else treats you the same way as your parents do. No one else cares the same way for you as your parents do. No one else in the World will give you the same leeway. Will one lack a certain resilience because one can’t deal with a No, or don’t understand why it’s a No?
Your Ego takes a beating, hearing all those ‘yeses’ and how wonderful you are at everything and then a No would just take the wind right out of your sails, it’s a shock. Is it about that resilience? Even against adversity and with all the curve balls life throws you, wouldn’t it be better to be able to face that adversity? I am not talking about being a nagging No Hound about everything – but I do think we need to prepare our children for “out there”! Just tell them the truth, make them stand for something, let them know what their strengths and weaknesses are and let them embrace them all and use them to their best advantage in this crazy Life.
If it is about resilience then we must give our children that strength and fight. They need these things to be able to survive – and not just survive but to live well.
Kait King 2017
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Parenting is hard. There is no right way of doing it but our methods clearly reflect in the personality of our kids. It’s always good to hear someone else’s perspective on the same. This helps in introspection and making right decisions when the time demands.
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Very true! I think so many things and wonder what I could have done differently too. It’s always good to reflect and question everything!
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So damn true!! 💯💯
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Thank you for those words of wisdom. I don’t think young adults are ready for the world today.
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I’m not sure any of us are, to be honest 😔 we’re in such bizarre times….
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Thank you for sharing this! I needed to read this!
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You are so welcome and thank you for reading 🙏🙂
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Very insightful; I completely agree!
I think everyone naturally wants to spoil those in which the love. However, if it comes to physically affecting their future with society, I think some adversity is a good thing. 🙂
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That’s exactly it! 🙂🙏
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I tell my children that their job is to care for themselves and the people around them… take care of health both physical and m’enfin is most important…
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That’s awesome🙂🙏 Thank you!!
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Well said, theres a fine balancing act between being a sweet and loving, nurturing parent and a parent who disciplines and teaches their child self-sufficiency so that they can one day help themselves.
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Yes, I looked at parenting like, if I died today would my son survive? Cope? Adapt? How can i make his journey in this world easier….it wasn’t by stuffing him in cotton wool but by making him warybthst there are monsters out there and things will be expected of you. Life isn’t always easy or hard, but you need to be able to survive both!🙂🙏
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Too true!
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