Suicide – sometimes it’s not a choice, it’s the only option

I was reminded to clarify this, by a comment and I thank you; this is how it feels to the person who is so broken they can’t see any future or hope. Of course there are so many more options than suicide, but to the suicide victim there is not.

33 thoughts on “Suicide – sometimes it’s not a choice, it’s the only option

  1. My experience of suicide is that my boyfriend died of suicide 6 years ago. The guilt and despair I felt and have been feeling is not possible to explain. I tried to help my boyfriend for 2,5 years and I could not save him. The despair and darkness a person who die of suicide is not measurable and it is very difficult for people who have not been in this despair to imagine nor understand. People may say, why do they not ask for help? Because in the dark place you are in when you are contemplating suicide, ther is no help to be found. The stigma has to be taken away. We need to talk open about suicide.

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    • I’m so very sorry that you’ve had this terrible, defining moment, that will last for your lifetime. It is a devastating blow and as you say – it is not possible to explain. But know this – nothing you did or didn’t do – caused him to give up. That guilt is fruitless and not yours. The stigma of the victim and of those left, devastated, behind. We are our worst critics, our biggest bullies and quick to make little of our own worth – the world is such a sharp, unkind place to so many and we’re still our own worst enemies… I hope we can start to talk more and understand more, keep that cycle going for it’s a dark and lonely place to visit, but never stay. Take comfort that his soul needed to get home, wherever or whatever that is, as quickly as it could and he’s free from his torment and inexplicable pain. Big hugs to you and trying is all we can do, and letting them go is what we must 🫂✨️

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  2. Even for the suicide victim, I don’t believe it’s the only option.
    In that situation, enlightenment comes in. And when there is no source of enlightenment, then the victim should consider the fact of life and the availability of hope.

    But why should someone even take his life in the first place?

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    • Because that light is gone. It’s not just a light at the end of the tunnel – the tunnel is black and neverending. There is no hope, no enlightenment, no purpose, no self worth. And so on. I understand it is very difficult for many to comprehend unless you’ve experienced that pain and survived it somehow. But this is my truth, how I felt, what I’ve seen and want to expose so that the help that is needed is given – not just following steps. It’s a very complex situation and not something solved or understood overnight. 🙏☮️💜

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  3. I used to believe it was the most selfish thing a person could do but as I grew older and wiser I came to understand that I have no right to judge someone else’s life (or death) choices. We are all so fragile.

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  4. It isn’t the only option, but on the mind of one at this mindstate this may be it. It’s sad, but people don’t understand. Why is one suicidal. I don’t talk from experience, I was once a cutter, but it was because that pain was better…. anyways. I never been at that level, but I understand it. I also understand how they need something else. Something is missing. If anyone needs an ear, I am here. You’re alive for a reason. Don’t, please. YOU HAVE A PURPOSE. .

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